Avoidance –

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Have you ever wondered why you put things off? The thing is you know it’s got to be done sometime and it’s going to niggle at you until you face up! Which are the the most usual tasks to be left for later? Ask yourself why. What makes you want to put certain tasks to one side? Discomfort? Can it be that we stay in the cosy lane because some things are just too tough to face up to?

We can stop building up stress in our lives by understanding why we avoid facing up to things – Leo Babauta’s  Face everything technique is a great guide to doing just this!

The Face Everything Technique

This technique is based on the idea that it’s better to be aware of things, and to deal with them like an adult, instead of running.

And if we do, none of it’s that big of a deal.

Here’s how it works:

  1. Create awareness by asking, “What am I doing right now?”Throughout the day, set reminders or put little notes that remind you to ask, “What am I doing right now?” The answer might be, “Checking Facebook,” or “Switching to a new browser tab,” or “Eating some chips.” Something simple and mundane like that, but just ask yourself what you’re doing, to start to bring awareness.
  2. Next, ask yourself, “What am I avoiding?” When things get difficult o body in the present moment. How bad is it? You’ll find that it’s No Big Deal. Stay with it for a little longer. And a little longer after that — challenge yourself.
  3. Take appropriate action. Now that you’ve faced it and have seen that it’s not such a big deal, you can act like an adult rather than a little child: you can decide what the best action is right now. If you’re afraid of doing some task, but you’ve faced it and seen that the fear is not such a big deal … you can remind yourself that the task will benefit you and others, and is much more important than your little fear. If you’re avoiding a difficult conversation with someone because you’re angry, you can see that the anger and offense is not such a big deal, and you can talk to the person calmly and appropriately, with empathy and compassion, and figure out a solution.

Read the entire article, you might see the light!

The Face Everything Technique: Why Avoiding Difficulties Doesn’t Work

 

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